Living Better is not merely confined to your own life or to making your own family’s life better. It is a much wider term. It implies making the life of others also better through your actions.
Be an ideal for others.
Live a simple, but happy life. Control your desires and wants by refraining from excessive indulgence in satisfying them.
Differentiate between needs and luxuries or extravaganza. You must satisfy your needs up to a certain limit and reject others that are only unnecessary for your life and without which you can lead a happy life.
If you are indulging in excessive purchases and consumption of goods, you may be indirectly depriving the other members of your society even from their bare necessities.
When people gifted with an abundance of purchasing power make excessive purchases, the producers need to produce more goods to meet the demands of the entire people of that place.
But, you must be knowing that the available resources are always lesser than demand. Ultimately, prices will go up and poorer sections of the society can not buy things enough to meet even their immediate necessities at such increased prices.
The result will be the insufficient satisfaction of even the basic needs of those sections of society. Added to that will be the diminishing state of resources available for future generations and an inflation spiralling upwards.
So, leading a simple life (I am not saying that you should forego all your wants, but try to control them) will make your life happier along with those lives of all sections of the society. This will definitely yield you a greater satisfaction and happiness than you ever expected as you are contributing to the happiness of your whole society by simply acting with prudence and economy.
Bhagavad Gita is delivered to humanity by God himself as a guideline and solution for the everyday problems and doubts arising in their daily lives. It shows the path for reaching moksha or a state of bliss.
I think moksha is not a reference to our life after death. Most believe and associate moksha with other world life after the soul leaves our body. But, for me moksha is happiness, peace and bliss that we experience in this own present life.
It is attained by overcoming the selfishness attitudes and materialism of this materialistic world. Our own senses guide us wrongly through shortcuts to achieve physical pleasures of life and engage ourselves in selfish acts and materialistic pleasures. Thereby we ignore the human values and indulge in unhealthy practices hurting or embarrassing our own neighbours and weaker sections of society.
Bhagavad Gita has shown the path for attaining happiness and a peaceful state of mind by overcoming the 6 enemies of life, namely,- kama, krodha, lobha, moha, mada, matsarya – ie. by refraining from lust, anger, selfishness, attachment, ego and addiction.
- Three paths have been prescribed for overcoming these enemies of happiness in the Gita which are the paths of Devotion, Knowledge and Detachment.
- One can attain bliss through utter devotion and faith and loyalty in his actions.
- Or, he can seek wisdom and truth behind everything and thereby attain happiness and bliss.
- Otherwise, he can adapt the path of detachment and then also attain happiness and peace.
Treating others with kindness and generosity, who are working in your home, gives much pleasure and satisfaction to most of us. It is a kind of bondage between human and human or between one soul and another soul.
Arranging the lights on Diwali Day
It took only 3 months or so to develop a bondage of uncle and daughter relationship between us after she started working in our house. She is good natured and used to do all work smiling and singing. One day, she was silent and I got worried what happened. When I went to see in the backyard, she was weeping silently. I enquired reason and after much persuasion, she told me that there is some entrance exam which she wanted to attend but she had no money to get registered for it. Her father didn’t have money to give her. I was much sad and felt pity on her. I gave the money and asked her to immediately fill the form and write the exam. This incident made her regard me even with much more respect and love. She, at times, used to refer me as her Dad while introducing herself to my relatives on their visit to my house. I used to gift her something or other as a token of affection through the hands of my sister-in-law or their daughter-in-law. This is because of some customs we follow. This attachment was much surprising to them.
All this happened one year ago. She wrote the exam later and got a seat in the polytechnic college. Immediately after that she got married also and is living with her husband in another town. But our attachment of father- daughter relationship is intact even now. Whenever she comes, she meets me also and asks about health and does some help in my work.
This post is in response to Shafali’s Creativity Carnival – “Girl”. Shafali has created a cue art of a Girl and asked us to respond to it with a post using her cue art.
So here is my take.
By the mention of girl, I immediately think of Malala Yousafzai, the brave girl who fights for the rights of socially and educationally oppressed girls.
She came to limelight at her tender age of only 15 years, when she was shot at by some militant groups while travelling in a school bus at Swat valley of Pakistan. The news spread to all corners of the world that a small school girl has been fighting with the Taliban militants even from her much tender age who were controlling and suppressing the freedom of women and girls. A new hope was born to all women and school going girls and she received much applause and support from all angles.
Malala started spreading awareness among people about the atrocities on women and girls through blog posts and meetings. She was the main person for introduction of the Right to Education Bill and other international laws related to education and protection of girl students and women. She even runs a Malala Charity Trust to help girls and women all over the world. She bagged many awards and the Noble Peace Prize also in 2014.
Now, the girls need not fear and tremble before crimes and atrocities. They have many laws to protect them, if only they can be willing enough to make use of them and prosper in all fields of life.
This story is in response to a blogging event “Creativity Carnival” organised by Shafali.
Once upon a time, there lived a king. He was a very noble person with all good qualities. He was a good administrator and always kind to his people. He used to wander in disguise throughout his kingdom to know about the welfare of his people. Whenever, he noticed any problem to his people or any lapse in his administration, he immediately used to set things right by arranging immediate assembly of his ministers and courtiers.
Not satisfying with all these things, he further wanted to find a more quicker method of doing justice to the helpless and victimised immediately without waiting till he is able to conduct his scheduled visits. So, with the consultation of his ministers and courtiers, he erected a bell in front of his royal palace at the entrance gate. And he announced to all his people, that whoever may be in any trouble can ring the bell by pulling the long rope to it at any odd moment of time throughout 24 hours on any day.
This made doing justice to his people more easy as whenever anybody pulled the rope, a courtier would immediately attend to the victim and solve his problem within moments after consulting the king. In due course, some green climbing plants grew around and got intertwined with the hanging rope of the bell.
One day, it so happened that a very lean and thin horse was passing that way astray and seeing the greenery, began eating the leaves thereby the rope got pulled and the bell rang. Immediately, the attendant came running and found the horse. He informed the matter immediately inside. The king got the news that a horse was pulling the bell. He wondered how an horse was left like that to wander and immediately summoned its owner.
The horse man came and expressed sorry. But king did not leave the matter. He enquired, why he had left it like that. He told that the horse could no more pull the cart or do any work. So, it was left unseen. The king tells him, that it was his duty to take care of the animal as it served him all through the life. He should feed the animal throughout the life and take proper care henceforth and should not leave it like this.
In this way, the horse got justice and the king was happy that the bell could provide justice even to the animals of his kingdom.
For those who are interested in reading articles on books and TV serials depicting good relationships and human values and ideals of society, here is a story of some ideal characters who represent the beautiful petals of a flower which blooms in the midst of thorns and bushes inhabited by snakes.
A story of three brothers and a sister, whose parents are murdered by relatives in their childhood in some property feud and get thrown on to streets. They are joined by another unfortunate girl and they wander on streets without food and shelter for days until they are given shelter, food and work by a big contractor’s family in a city. The elder brother takes responsibility of all brothers and sisters and brings them up by doing all illegal activities endorsed to him by that family for earning livelihood. He did not like the job and always remained in a state of lot of mental conflict and inner struggle as they are providing food and shelter to his brothers and sister.
The story portrays his struggles in life in bringing up them, losing his sister and finding her later as the wife of a great idealist police officer, his loyalty to his master at the behest of enmity with the police officer who wants him to leave the criminal world and adopt a respectable gentleman life and there after, his mental breakdown at the recurring incidents of cunning, wicked and selfish acts of people. When his conscience is unable to bear anything more of this, he leaves all people and goes wandering in search of the meaning of what is good and bad in this selfish and cruel world. Then when he reached Kashmir, he reads the news of a bomb blast on his brother-in-law’s family and gets stunned and becomes like a lifeless stone and gets admitted in army hospital.
The story goes through their next generation also who also undergo the same misfortunes and criminal entanglements and finally outcome all hurdles and bloom into unaffected flowers of purity.
The characters of both generations are associated with the petals of those flowers which live in thorns among snakes but are unaffected by surroundings. They only spread fragrance, beauty and love to the world.
The police officer’s character is a very great ideal one who is never selfish but only thinks of well being of society and values human values. He does not accept bribes or favours and even rewards for his work as he thinks it to be his duty to serve people and nation. His son also is a very great ideal person who is brought up among criminal circumstances as he gets lost in bomb blast when he was still one year old but never adhered to criminal thoughts or acts.
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