Can you define “Forgiveness”?
Once a little boy described Forgiveness as follows to his parents:
“It is the fruit that a tree gives you when you hit it with a stone”.
What a wonderful definition!
That boy’s reply explains the essence of it all in such a simple way. You can’t provide a better example or answer for it.
Forgiveness is to love a person in spite of his vile nature and weak points. It is offering love and care in spite of receiving pain or abuse from him.
It is just like a mother loving her child and the tree giving the fruit in spite of bad treatment.
There are many advantages and plus points of Forgiveness.
- Forgiveness provides you peace of mind. Otherwise, you will be always in tension as you get engaged in disturbing thoughts about the people around you. If you forgive the person, you can move on smoothly. Similarly, the forgiven person can also feel relaxed and get adjusted himself.
- Forgiveness can aid the person that gets forgiven to realize his mistakes and to repent for his vile acts. Thereby, he can build his moral character by reforming himself.
- Forgiveness reduces violence and tension. When you are not reacting violently to a wicked act, the doer of that act naturally gets cool and soft in his deeds and tries to wonder why his opponent is not attacking him. So, it gives him time to think and become soft. That way, violence gets reduced and he may correct himself and get his problem solved through mutual talk. It is just like Mahatma Gandhi offering his other cheek when slapped on one of his cheeks. Immediately the person refrains himself and comes to dialogue and mutual negotiation.
- And, there is this last one. God forgives you and likes you more when you forgive others.